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Why?

Loved one takes trip to meet a therapist.

Therapist says during the course of the discussion:

* You don’t look depressed.

* Your thoughts control your depression.

* Do you have a happy pill for that?

Why is this therapist still practicing and dealing with depression?

– Bernadette

Things I Miss Since Depression Struck Our Household

imageAs I lay on my side last evening, inviting sleep to come, the thought crossed my mind of how many things are different since depression came full force into our household. These are just a few. Some are mundane but missed and others are important and are mourned.

– Going food shopping together with one of us checking the coupons and ads and the other the shopping list.
– Back rubs or gentle lines drawn on the back with one’s finger
– Talking in bed together either in the early morning or late at night
– Doing the gardening together whether it is mowing the grass while one weeds or some other combination.
– Talking about something other than depression
– Having belly laughs together over some inane thing
– Talking during meals
– Little surprises that say the other was thinking of you
– Days where you both go to bed thinking, “It was a very good day indeed.”

There are more but you get the picture. When depression takes over and your loved one is centered on him or herself and it is difficult for the relationship to flourish, for the people involved to both feel love and care.

The flip side – because there is always a flip side – is that you are simply bowled over when something returns and suddenly your loved one is not centered on themselves – he or she is thinking of you. That does your heart good, taking your breath away and bringing a smile to your lips. It’s then that you realize everything you are doing is worth it because this is someone you love and this is that someone breaking through to show you the real person behind the depression. I’m good with that.

-Bernadette